Why I Hate Brats
You're not as cute as you think you are
The messages between me and a tanned, hunky Spanish sub on Feeld are flying. It’s a bit more than a flirtation, and we start talking about what we’re into. I tell him how much I love a guy in a chastity cage.
“How are you going to manage that?”
“What?”
“You’ll have to hold me down to get me into that cage. I won’t be easy.” He accompanies the message with a winking emoji. I roll my eyes and put the phone down. There’s another brat. My least favorite type of sub.
I’m not here to say that brats are bad or that brat-themed dynamics are wrong for everyone, but they’re 100% wrong for me. Not every domme wants a sub that fights back. Not all of us want to tame a sub like a a puppy to get him to do the bare minimum. Some of us just strongly prefer our subs to actually want to submit. Imagine that.
I’m a sadist, not a disciplinarian
Domination is my vehicle for sadism. The pleasure I’m chasing is in watching him suffer for me, not in correcting his behavior. The brat dynamic puts the domme in the role of enforcer. He breaks the rule, she punishes, he learns (or doesn’t on purpose), she punishes again, the loop continues. The erotic charge is in the catch and correction.
Mine is in finding the button that, when pressed, melts him into a subby pile of goo for him. I want him already willingly at my feet so I can take him apart. If he’s busy fighting me, he is not already at my feet, and the part I find hot hasn’t started yet.
